How can I take care of myself?
Learning that your child or youth is questioning their gender identity or sexual orientation may bring up a range of emotions. You might also find that the experience challenges some of your beliefs and experiences. There is a coming out process for parents too, and recognizing yourself as the parent or caregiver of a queer child may be an adjustment. Your feelings and reactions are normal, and an important part of your journey in supporting your child or youth. While focusing on supporting and affirming your child or youth, ensure you allow yourself time and space to process your feelings without judgement and seek support as you need it (e.g., from other parents in your community, faith or cultural leaders, supportive family members, or friends).
There are a range of local support groups for parents and caregivers supporting queer and gender-diverse children and youth. Parents for Children’s Mental Health can help you find these—email support@pcmh.ca for more information. If you feel that you or your family need professional support, you can speak with a therapist or counsellor who specializes in gender and sexuality to help your family navigate this journey and provide coping strategies as needed.
The most important thing is to celebrate your child. Acknowledge when you’ve had a good conversation or when you’ve really supported them to feel good about themselves.
Educate yourself, be supportive in a positive way, get supports for you, and find a community that has lived experience.