How can I take care of myself?

As a parent or caregiver, it can be hard to put your needs first when it comes to the children or young people in your life. It’s important, however, to take care of yourself so that you can be there for your child. Here are some concrete ideas you can try.

• Learn as much as you can about disordered eating and/or eating disorders. Knowing what you’re dealing with can help decrease the stress and anxiety that often come with navigating new or unknown territory.

• Acknowledge your emotions. The feelings and reactions you’re experiencing are normal and reasonable. Give yourself time and space to process these, and seek peer support or your own therapist if you think that would be helpful.

• Separate the person from the behaviour. It’s important to remember that although your child or young person is struggling with an eating problem, this doesn’t define them. Work to tease apart the challenging behaviours from the person your child or young person is and find ways to celebrate their unique qualities. Focus on having many conversations and connections with your child or young person that aren’t about food or eating, but rather are about other important aspects of their life.

• Practice mindfulness. When you’re managing many emotions that are stressful and anxiety-provoking, it can be helpful to engage in activities like meditation and deep breathing. These practices have been shown to decrease stress and anxiety, help with memory and focus, support emotional regulation, and encourage self-compassion.

• Balance your time. Strong, positive relationships with family, friends, and other parents or caregivers are essential for our mental health and wellness. Spending time with others can boost our mood and help us to feel supported. It’s equally important to take time for yourself, where you can do something on your own that you enjoy and that recharges you.